The Words of the Sedehi Family

Winning the Archangel: Solution to Couples Contradictory Contracts

Shahram Sedehi
May 14, 2012


Sun Myung Moon -- April 14, 2012

In a marriage there are two unwritten contradictory contracts, instead of what usually is thought to be just one contract for both man and the woman!? Fortunately, there is a third contract that could bring resolution, the contract with the Archangel.

Hence all the financial and man-power deficiencies that Blessed couples come across to fulfill their mission is actually because, the Archangel has not been won, and he will not hand over his dominion over all things to the couple. So before we inherit the love of God, we need to win the Archangel, as our True Parents have accomplished. There is the man's contract, which is focused on the eternal purpose and vision for the marriage. On the other hand, the woman's contract deals with daily, consistent work on the relationship. So basically, one is focused on the long term goal and the other, the short term goal.

So usually men get so overwhelmed when they are asked by the woman, to focus on the daily growth and maintenance of the relationship. They feel if their couple exercises faith in the relationship, then the relationship will work itself out, on its own, it does not need any "micro-management"!

On the other hand, the woman just can not relate how much the man lacks the discipline it takes to take the vision into reality. Total reliance on faith and ignoring the very fact that God made us on earth for a reason, that we actually need to deal with its physical reality.

What would be a possible bridge between these two contracts? The bridge is in the realm of the All things, including the Angels. That is the third contract in any marriage, the missing link.

In other words, men are commitment to their wife, because of their faith in God. Women are committed to their husband because of the investment they actually make in the relationship, their love for their husband.

As a man, my understanding was that man and woman can unite centered on God, yet God is not the common denominator for most women. Then, I discovered why True Father emphasis the role of the archangel in marriage.

True Father asked us to have three spiritual children before the Blessing, so many times. Well, that was not a recruiting pitch by Rev. Moon!! The whole point of it was the reality of the realm of Archangel. Even if Adam and Eve did not fall, that was the passage both had to go through.

So God gave man and woman a bridge, and that is the realm of angels. On one hand angels are concerned with the realm of all things and on the hand they are interested in the realm of human, the Adamic realm, since they have similar functionality of emotion, will and intellect, yet lack the parent-child heart.

Thus, both husband and wife need to create a common contract with the Archangel. They need to be just as committed to the Archangel as they are to each other. And that's when the Archangel will show the man how to have dominion over the realm of the woman, the realm of the external form and All things, the physical reality. And in return the Archangel will guide the woman, to gain dominion over the internal realm of man, the realm of the spirit, and mind. And finally, the man and woman will teach the Archangel how to be human, and love God, not just as a servant, but as His child.

The fall of man is the exact reverse of what should have happened. Adam must have love the Archangel first and help Eve love the Archangel centered on God. And then the Archangel in turn would have supported both.

Hence all the financial and man-power deficiencies that Blessed couples come across to fulfill their mission is actually because, the Archangel has not been won, and he will not hand over his dominion over all things to the couple. So before we inherit the love of God, we need to win the Archangel, as our True Parents have accomplished. 

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