Wife Said: "Married Woman Stole My Husband!" Who's Responsibility?

Shahram Sedehi
September 22, 2012

Even though True Father has volumes on the topic, our movement culture simply did not promote "passion in marriage". Instead it tried to "protect" marriage from impurities of sexual decadence. Recently, there is a scandal we are all trying to deal within our church, which was originally exposed by a wife who said: "A Married Woman Stole My Husband!"

Yes, indeed an immoral act was committed, which collectively has been very damaging to all of us. But, who is to take responsibility?

Is it the "adulterous" woman? or is it the wife, being the apparent "victim"? Or the "Stolen" husband!

Which one? Or is it all of us?

As we study in Divine Principle, sin does not just have a "personal" cause, but a "collective" cause as well!

But, somehow, we, the "collective", does not like to associate ourselves with the sin, but only the "ideals" in our head!

Well, that's the crossroads we are at, in our movement. Are we going to admit that the personal "sin" of this woman, has a collective root in us, or be in denial? Are we willing to ask the question: What would be our collective sin in this matter?

When Father proclaimed the "Absolute Sex" era, he was emphasizing an era to restore the fall, from the aspect of "omission", not just the traditionally thought of, "sin of commission"(illicit sexual relationship). Think about it, why didn't he just call it Absolute Purity, or Absolute Abstinence!

However, most of us Unificationists, entirely missed the mark on that emphasis. In other words, we remained in the era of overcoming the sin of commission, try not to "fall" sexually. We went back to the Old Testament era which most commandments started with "Do Not"!

We took a defensive attitude toward Satan and in the end we lost anyway, as hundreds of such acts begin to be committed especially among our youth.

We did not act pro-actively. We did not teach how to love sexually your spouse, but we taught how to stay abstinent and pure. Yes, we did had the character education and Divine Principle classes, but they just did not do the job.

Even though True Father has volumes on the topic, our church culture simply did not promote passion in marriage. Instead it tried to "protect" marriage from impurities of sexual decadence.