The Words of the Carlson Family

Christ’s Mission Of Reconciliation

Lois A. H. Carlson
December 30, 2008

“God in His parental love feels all the grief of this fallen world. Jesus taught that ’as you did to one of the least of these my brethren, you did it to me.’ (Mt. 25-40) So when we love others, we are loving Jesus -- but when we hurt others, we also hurt Jesus; and if we hurt Jesus, then God must be suffering even more. Yet Christ is the one who lives to comfort the Father, to end His suffering by taking it upon his shoulders.”
True Mother, Heart of True Mother, HSA-UWC, New York, 1991, p.153.

The mission of Christ is to comfort the Father. How is this done? Jesus said that to do the will of God is to love one another. He gives a parable of the one lost sheep and how the shepherd leaves the other 99 to find it. So the work of Christ is the work of reconciliation. Reconciliation of God and humankind, of husband and wife, of parents and children, and of siblings.

True Father speaks of the Four Great Realms of Love. These consist of parental, children’s, conjugal and sibling loves. Our hearts are created to experience each of these loves in a harmonious family. However, the Fall brought about the division of these loves. It’s as if a nuclear bomb exploded within the heart of the family of God destroying the relationships of God, Adam, Eve, Abel and Cain.

The pattern of these broken relationships are within each of our hearts. This is the original blueprint of hearts that we inherited from our first ancestors. Since then other blueprints of heart relationships have been created which we also have inherited from our ancestors and collectively from whatever racial or national group we come from. On top of this, the heart patterns we have developed from our experience within our own childhood family exist within our hearts. In the book, Heart of True Mother, Ye Jin Nim explains that True Mother had the responsibility of unraveling all the evil created by the Eves of history through tearful prayer This was her responsibility as it was True Father’s responsibility to restore all of the fallen Adamic relationships in history. We, too, have this mission on the tribal level of heart.

How is this accomplished? Jesus speaks of loving one’s enemy. Why does he emphasize this? Is it just to pay indemnity, to keep the peace, to show we are more religious than the other person? There exists a universal principle behind these words. What is this principle? In order for restoration to occur, enemies must unite in true love. The course of restoration is not just external to ourselves, but it starts within our own hearts. Jesus speaks of the Kingdom of Heaven being within. The Kingdom of Hell exists within us, also. The division of these Four Great Realms of Love creates this Hell. The restoration of these four realms, resulting in their unity, creates heaven within.

How is this heaven within practically created? Doesn’t it seem that the universe constantly puts you in difficult relationships? Why? For reconciliation. However, many times we achieve reconciliation only after an arduous path of fighting our inability to love this other person. Usually, we unconsciously overcome whatever it is that bothers us about them, or we simply leave the relationship. However, this is not so easy if the person is our spouse or our child.

There exists within our heart pattern of relationships the image that resembles in some way the very person we are having difficulty loving unconditionally. How is this? In our childhood family, we received not only pure love, but also impure love. We stored the memory of this love and our reaction to it in a part of our hearts. Whenever we receive impure love from someone important to us, we can react in one of two ways One is out of our true nature and the other is out of our fallen, evil nature. If reconciliation is made soon after the original hurtful experience with the one who harmed us and we forgive them, then our hearts remain whole, and we can move forward in our spiritual growth.

However, if we decide not to forgive, or are unable to make inner reconciliation with what occurred, we push the part of our heart storing the image of our resentment and pain away from our pure innermost part of our hearts. After time, it goes underground into our unconscious minds. If it was a traumatic experience, we may break it off and throw it into the outermost area of our being, totally inaccessible to our conscious minds. Do you remember the scene in the first Star Wars movie? Luke discovers the holographic image of Princes Leah in the computer. The parts of our hearts that we disown are stored in our inner universe in a similar way.

The reality of this is that we can never be whole in our heart until we retrieve these pieces, purify and integrate them back into our hearts. How is this done? As I said earlier, it is through loving our enemies. The “victim” part of our hearts seeks reconciliation with the “abuser” part. How is this possible for a “victim” to do after being hurt so deeply? The reality of who we are is that we were created as sons and daughters of God. We were created to only express goodness, truth and beauty, God’s character. Whenever we express hatred, lies and selfishness we violate the very essence of our being. It is this violation that creates the deep feelings of guilt and shame within. To restore our character to reflect God’s, we need to confess, repent and seek forgiveness from our enemies for choosing to be bitter, resentful and, at times, to seek revenge.

Even God experiences strong emotions when He is hurt. However, He always comes to the point of reconciliation within, finally serving those who have hated Him. This is why Jesus counseled his followers to take the log out of their own eyes before judging another’s sins. The irony of this advise is that once the log is removed from our eyes, the revengeful desire to judge others is lost. We realize that it was the logs in our own eyes that were polluting our hearts and not what the abuser originally did to us.

Again, if we were unable to achieve reconciliation with who and what occurred soon after the original incident, and then reacting out of our fallen nature, we come to take on a part of the evil that was given to us, creating the victim-abuser relationship within our hearts. This is the root cause of the conflicting voices on the tapes we play over and over again in our minds whenever we become triggered by someone or some situation that reminds us of the initial abuse. As adults, in our dreams or in real life, what we are running from when we meet people we fear is not them, but our hatred or resentment of them. Again, we violated our conscience.

Identifying the different voices within can be tricky. What appears to be the voice of the inner victim may actually be the voice of the inner abuser. This may be the reason why it is hard to transform the negative energy locked in this relationship. Having a sincere willingness to know the exact nature of this inner dynamic will bring the light needed to reveal what it is. Many times it is the voice of the wounded child who was the victim in his childhood family, but then took on the voice of his abuser to protect himself. Consciously recognizing this hidden voice of the wounded child, encouraging it with a compassionate heart to humble himself to God and His word, then asking it to repent for this evil attitude to the one he is directing his rage at will break this negative energy cycle within the individual. Once this is done, healing can come to the wounded inner child who was holding onto his sinful attitude as protection.

This is why it is important for us to confess and repent for these evil feelings we have towards others. Unless we do, we will always be running from these images within and people without, never able to find inner or outer peace. However, they are only reminding us of the inner dynamic of hatred between the two conflicting parts stemming from our childhood, ancestry or history. Something I discovered very paradoxical about hatred. In actuality, we inwardly choose to hate someone not because we really want to get away from them, but rather because we couldn’t be in a loving relationship with them. So any relationship is better than feeling totally alone and destitute in the world, especially as a child.

So whenever we experience an unloving attitude towards someone, by searching within, we can come to identify the two voices of the conflicting parties. By bringing them to our inner altar and having each confess and repent for their evil feelings, reconciliation of our inner heart relationships can occur. This in turn will begin to be reflected in our outer relationships. We will begin to have feelings of compassion towards those we once distasted. The more we consciously work on this process, the more we come to create the heart of Christ within. We are in the process of creating a home within our hearts where God can reside. This process of inner reconciliation brings the Four Great Realms of Heart together once more, enabling the individual to experience these loves freely.

Say an original wounding by a parent occurred in the early life of a child which is now affecting the husband-wife relationship. The individual comes to realize that her husband’s habits remind her of something her father use to do. This present relationship is being overshadowed by the past. The relationship between her realm of father’s love and realm of child’s love is one of conflict. The individual then has her child aspect repent to her father aspect of heart for holding onto this sinful heart attitude. The father aspect repents to the child aspect of heart for whatever it was that initiated this response in his child. The opening of this inner relationship between parent and child will bring compassion into the outer conjugal relationship, resulting in a more harmonious one.

The reconciliation of an individual’s heart becomes magnified when the division involves ancestral, national or historical sins. But the process is the same. Again, both sides of these wars exist within an individual. The historical people created a negative energy base through their unresolved confrontation which is now being expressed through the structure of the fallen nature of their descendants. The individual brings these two conflicting parts of her heart together before the altar of God, has them confess and repent of these sinful attitudes towards each other, and asks for forgiveness and forgives the other.

This spirit of reconciliation allows the parts of our hearts which inherited our ancestors’ sinful attitudes to come forward more and more to be purified. Inner peace is achieved as the historical negative energy bases are dissolved in this way. This is the reason intercessory prayer for ancestral sins works. By creating unity through the process of reconciliation within our own hearts and bringing this heart to our outer relationships, we liberate history as we confess and repent for these historical heart patterns.

In addition to using our outer relationships to discover the parts of ourselves we have disowned, we can also use our dreams. Many times these images holding our sinful heart attitudes appear in our dreams. The more we become willing to see these distasteful parts of our hearts, the more they will come forward into our conscious minds through our dreams. Rather than experiencing shame when we see our inner evil, it should be a time of rejoicing. The ability to see our evil means that we have begun to create within our hearts the Christ consciousness. The more we build the Christ consciousness within, the more the evil parts of our hearts will feel safe to show themselves to us. Congratulations. When we are unable to face our own evil, it means we have to work on developing the Christ consciousness first, which is the willingness to take responsibility for the process of reconciliation through loving the unlovable.

The process of inner reconciliation helps to keep us humble before God and our brothers and sisters. Whenever we feel critical of another person, we realize that these characteristics we judge belonging to the other person actually lie somewhere deep within our own hearts. With this heart attitude of reconciliation, Satan is powerless over us. A base no longer exists for him to invade our hearts. Finally, even Satan can be restored through the power of true love. We can even have the attitude of “Satan, I will restore even you.” 

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