The Words of In Jin Moon from 2011
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The Words of In Jin Moon from 2011 |
1) In Jin Nim wished everyone a Happy Mother's Day. She brought greetings from True Parents who are now on the European tour. She was privileged to accompany them to Norway, and Rome. They say all roads lead to Rome. Having True Parents there was a great honor and celebration for all the brothers and sisters and dignitaries who helped to celebrate our True Parents.
2) In Jin Nim realized how incredibly blessed the American movement is, because the European brothers and sisters do not get a chance to see our True Parents as much as we do.
3) Everywhere True Parents went, the members were so excited. They were in tears. To have them in their home country was an incredible blessing. You could see it in their faces. Many of them were literally shaking. You can see how much they miss them over the years, but still are firm in their belief and continue to walk the road together with our True Parents. To have them at this time in their country -- you could see visibly their excitement and their hearts of gratitude -- to experience such a blessed day.
4) True Parents started the European tour in Korea and then went on to Spain. In Jin Nim met up with them in Rome. There, Father gave his heart out to everyone in the audience. At Hoon Dok Hae in the morning Father talked a lot about how Rome was the center of the world. Rome had a great responsibility, but because Rome could not unite with and have the knowledge of the true son of God that came 2000 years ago, in the form of Jesus Christ, a lot of the blessing that our Heavenly Parent wanted to share with Rome was lost. Father talked a lot about how the word Rome, in Korean is "Roma." To Father's ear "Roma" sounds like rolling and "Ma" sounds like Satan. So the Italian members, looked at father and said "you're calling us the city of rolling Satan?"
5) What Father was trying to convey is that Rome was meant for greatness, but when it is not centered on God and does not realize who our True Parents are, it is a city that is rolling around in the satanic understanding of what our life is meant to be. So, as True Parents were leaving, when the Italian members rushed up to In Jin Nim and asked her "how are we to understand Roma, meaning "rolling Satan?"" She answered, "Roma can be heard as rolling Satan only because it is not united with God and True Parents but if you take the Korean pronunciation, Roma, and you reverse it -- it becomes Amor." So, what our True Parents are saying is -- reverse this satanic understanding of our lives and graft back on to an understanding of our life in relation to our Heavenly Parent and True Parents -- so you can be the city of love, amora.
6) Then the Italian brothers and sisters got excited -- they determined from now until True Parents come back they will be the city of "amor" -- and not only will they be known for Italian food (In Jin Nim named several Italian dishes), but they will be known for amor. In Jin Nim told them "wonderful, wonderful!"
7) True Parents gave their farewells to the Italian members and went on to Norway. At the UPF event in Norway Father poured out his heart once again. Those who accompanied True Parents learned something new on their trip to Norway -- and that was, our Father heard from one of the dignitaries who gave the congratulatory remarks -- he was the person in charge of the World War II veterans in Norway, and those who fought in Korea. This was a very distinguished, very tall, Norwegian gentleman, obviously from a military background. He began his message by saying, "I love the Korean people." He went on to give a testimony and speech, congratulating our True Father. It was quite inspiring, because here was someone who actually fought in the war. He symbolized the Allied forces that helped to liberate our True Father when he was incarcerated in the North Korean concentration camp in Hungnam.
8) As In Jin Nim's father sat in his cell waiting for his scheduled execution the next day, he heard the planes and allied forces rushing in to liberate him and his cell mates. In Jin Nim's Father, his heart of gratitude has always been filled for those who fought in the Korean War. Just as much as he pledged to himself, when he came to America to love this country and raise up great men and women of God from this country, because this country saved his life -- and just as he felt toward America he also felt that way towards the Norwegian representatives who fought in the Korean War.
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9) One point of information that was shared was that the UN general secretary at that time was a Norwegian [Trygve Lie ]. And it was a Norwegian who fought to have the Allied forces go to Korea and bring about the liberation of Korea. This gentleman who spoke was also a true advocate and founder of the human rights declaration that we still use today to fight the abuse that is taking place with the faith breaking issue in Japan. For our True Parents to be in this country that represents the Nobel Peace Prize -- it was quite significant. In Jin Nim is hoping that one of these days, Norwegians and the country of Norway can wake up to the great work, the great humanitarian and peace work, but not just peace work -- but as the True Parents of mankind -- how much our True Father and our True Mother really worked to bring about peace and harmony all around the world -- and award them the Nobel Peace Prize in the future.
10) It was quite interesting, because during the three Hoon Dok Haes that were held in Norway -- True Father talked a lot about Norway. And Norway -- "nor-ae" means a song in Korean. So when True Father was doing Hoon Dok Hae in Norway -- after asking that his speech be read, he immediately launched into a song-fest. This put True Mother into great spirits because she did not need to send little notes asking Father to conserve his energy, to rest a little bit -- "you're missing breakfast, … you're missing lunch, … you're missing dinner." So, at least in Norway they did not have marathon Hoon Dok Haes. This made True Mother very very happy. In Jin Nim bid them farewell as they journeyed on to Greece and Turkey -- she will meet up with them again in London.
11) When In Jin Nim was in Norway the members told her that it had been 40 some years since True Parents had last been there and many of our members had never seen True Parents. It was an incredibly emotional visit for a lot of the European members. Again In Jin Nim felt how blessed America is because we get to see our True Parents almost every month in Las Vegas. We get to spend beautiful times with them. Wherever Father goes our beautiful True Mother is always there with him, really taking care of him, loving him.
12) When In Jin Nim watches them really work together in their active life of ministry -- many times Father is the one speaking, but then many times our True Mother is the one speaking. It is such a beautiful interplay of a man and a woman working together without any boundaries, without any limit -- without any, "you are a woman and you cannot do this, you are a man and cannot do this." There is very much a sense that they are a team, and they love each other, they enjoy each other's company, and to see them work together, day in and day out is truly an inspiration for In Jin Nim.
13) But perhaps because In Jin Nim is a woman she is always looking at the example of our True Mother with great interest and fascination. The Messiah comes to find his bride. He comes to find a woman to love, to find a woman with whom he can stand together as the True Parents thereby breaking all the barriers and all the past understandings of how a man and a woman can treat each other. In a way, our True Mother is the secret ingredient that make True Parents what it is.
14) In Jin Nim jokingly said to her father, "You are the greatest father, greatest teacher, greatest prophet, but you know you can't be True Parents without True Mother!" And he answered, "That's right, that's right -- no matter how great I might be, or people may think I am, I cannot be True Parents without True Mother."
15) To see, the understanding of the Holy Spirit materialized in a physical form, in the physical form of our True Mother -- for In Jin Nim as a student of religion, is an incredibly exciting thing. She has studied the history of religion and she has seen how religion has treated woman over the years. Because we only had the example of male prophets, and Jesus the Son of God -- nobody knew what to do with the daughter of God. Nobody knew what to do with women in the context of a religious life, or in the context of the church. Should we allow woman to worship together with men? Do we allow woman a voice in the congregation? Do we allow them a voice in the pulpit? Is it wrong for woman to be a leader? Should she only be a mother? What is the role of woman? This has been the great puzzle for thousands and thousands of years. Woman were relegated as second-class citizens. They were seen as the great temptress who led Adam astray and caused the fall of man. Woman were blamed for so many things. If a man was tempted it was the woman's problem.
16) Where is the responsibility of the man? Why is it that in the stoning of a woman for adultery, only the woman is stoned to death? What about the man? Obviously in the case of adultery it takes two people, doesn't it? But why has it always been the women who were stoned to death? Why were women always the ones to be blamed? It is because we did not have the example of our True Parents and we did not have the example of a woman who could truly stand in the position as the perfected Eve, with dignity, worth, and pride in knowing that she is a divine daughter of God. And so, from In Jin Nim, a student of religions' vantage point -- it is a most remarkable thing that we have this woman in our lives.
17) The message that our True Parents bring is truly a fulfillment of what Christianity has been waiting for. In Christianity we had a beautiful example and model and understanding of Christian piety, because we love Jesus as the son of God. But with our True Parents we now have an understanding of the Holy Spirit manifested in this physical form of the true woman, and understanding that she is the secret ingredient that makes True Parents what it is. In a way, through our True Parents women can reclaim their divine dignity and worth as the daughter that was meant to be when God first created Eve.
18) Just as In Jin Nim's father's birth was prophesied and talked about, and there were even special birds that signaled his birth a couple of days before -- likewise when her mother was born there were a great number of revelations. Her grandmother loved to share with her all the providential significance surrounding her mother's life.
19) One of the stories her grandmother told her -- in Korea at that time, in North Korea, there were many groups who were preparing for the coming of the Messiah. God was sending revelation upon revelation to the prepared Christians of North Korea -- saying that the Messiah would come to Korea. Therefore, these groups must make way in preparation for the Messiah.
20) At that time there was even a group that created and prepared clothing for the Messiah -- for each of the seasons of the year. When In Jin Nim's mother was eight years old her grandmother took her mother to visit one of these churches. And one of the great teachers, a woman who many saw as a prophet, when she saw her mother at the age of eight she walked up to her and said to In Jin Nim's grandmother, "the child you have before you is to be the bride of the Messiah, the Lord of the second Advent. Do not think of yourself as her mother, you are but a nurse. So please prepare and please take care of her well." And this woman touched In Jin Nim's mother's forehead and gave a prayer.
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21) Even at that young age, people who were open to understand the Providence and to receiving revelations -- they clearly knew our True Mother was born to be an exceptional woman. As she went on through the years she became an excellent student in junior high school and high school -- In Jin Nim's mother always thought, and shared with her that she was meant for something great. She told In Jin Nim that when she was a high school student she was very fascinated by this great medium called, movies. She thought how incredibly powerful, these people, that she had never seen before, these people from Hollywood -- and she said at that time that she was quite taken by Brigitte Bardot. Brigitte Bardot was her idol. And In Jin Nim asked her mother, "why Brigitte Bardot?" And she answered that she saw her in the movie "War and Peace" and the Revolutionary spirit, the spirit of wanting to change the world, "I could not keep my eyes off of her." And In Jin Nim answered, "yes, but she is also known as a great sex symbol." Her mother laughed and then answered, "No, in that role she was magnificent!" She inspired her mother, and her mother thought to herself "How can I use this medium to reach the people that I have yet to meet?"
22) She was a very good student and would have gone on to one of the best colleges in Korea, but she was taken by this medium -- and she thought to herself perhaps she should become an actress -- "and maybe by becoming an actress I can reach a lot of people." While she was saying these things to herself, our Heavenly Parent plucked her out of her high school to become the bride of our True Father -- and off she went on the road to becoming True Mother, whom In Jin Nim came to love and admire over the years.
23) She was so taken with this desire to change the world. In a way, that is what she has done with her life. And now she is in her 70s, but single-handedly, and together with our True Father she has changed the world, and she has certainly changed In Jin Nim's life. In Jin Nim would not be here without her mother.
24) She has been instrumental in paving the way for the acceptance of women in the area of religion and faith. And she has brought about many, many great strides in allowing men and women, both, to experience the dignity of women that we have not seen for many, many years.
25) In In Jin Nim's True Mother, In Jin Nim finds so many inspirations and so much wisdom -- in that many, many times when she found herself in difficult situations, or things that she needs to work out, she invariably turns back to the wisdom nuggets that her mother shared with her over the years. One of the single most important things that her mother shared was, "In Jin, we are not here for ourselves. We are here to do something really wonderful. In a way, we are here to change the world, to make it better than when we found. But as proud woman we need to do it with a sense of dignity, with a sense of worth, knowing that we are divine creatures -- and so as woman, don't fall prey to thinking that because we have such a far way to go, that somehow we have to deny our femininity -- to become more aggressive, to become more passionate."
26) She always stressed to In Jin Nim -- keeping and maintaining your femininity while being strong inside and thereby manifesting this incredible light, of warmth, care and nurture. She always asked her to be strong, and absolutely ambitious for God on the inside and maintain the feminine. Celebrate the feminine -- through your loving gestures and care and compassion.
27) One of the things she stressed to In Jin Nim over and over is the need to practice what In Jin Nim calls simple elegance. She said, "We women have incredible powers, but many times we overcompensate because for centuries we have been denied the right to power, knowledge, and wealth."
28) She has stressed to In Jin Nim -- be comfortable in your skin, be grateful for who you are -- this allows you to be a woman of simple elegance. We emphasize simplicity -- the things that are simple, foundational, things we cannot do without. Such as, the most important thing in a person's life, no matter how great or small you might be, is the understanding that we live for the sake of others. This is our core value. And we love our families. We are here to build healthy ideal families by dealing with all the issues that arise along the road of building an ideal family. And we are here because, we are here to raise people to be better than ourselves -- to raise our children to be better than ourselves so that we can leave something wonderful behind, so that we can keep this continuity of love, and of greatness, and of prosperity all throughout the generations. In a way she asked In Jin Nim to concentrate on the simple things -- which is the importance of family.
29) In Jin Nim was tickled pink by one of the STFers who wrote her a long e-mail. She was thanking her for Lovin Life, the worship on Sunday, and how much she has gained from her experience on STF. And one of the incredible experiences that she had came from a talk she had with In Jin Nim's daughter Ariana. Because they are similar in age -- she saw her as a fellow patriot, fellow traveler on this journey of life. Because Ariana had accomplished a lot in her young life, she wanted to know what Ariana's goal in life is. She asked Ariana, "You're graduating from Harvard, you've won all the gold medals in ballroom dancing competition, you won the highest awards as a concert pianist -- what would you like to do in life, what is your goal in life?" This girl thought that she was so accomplished as a young woman -- perhaps she would say that she would go on to a career in law and so on and so on, but instead she turned to this young lady and told her that her goal in life was to have a family. When she heard Ariana say that she realized, "yes, that is the goal of life."
30) In a way, this is what Jesus came to do 2000 years ago, but his mission was cut short because he had to die on the cross. Our True Parents also wanted to have a family -- and they are inviting all of us to do the same. And that is the true beauty in simple living. Because, no matter how complicated and ambitious we might be -- thinking about lots of different things, or as mothers our heads are stretched out to here, because there is so much to do … but the most important thing is the relationship that we have within the family. If we don't have that then no matter what we become, we will never feel satisfied or fulfilled as a son and daughter of God.
31) When In Jin Nim's mother emphasized simple living, she was asking In Jin Nim to concentrate on the things that are of the utmost importance, the simple building blocks of our lives. And those simple building blocks are the relationships that we have with our Heavenly Parent, with our True Parents, as the paradigm of true love that we learn from them, that we can aspire to be like. And, to really appreciate things and gain wisdom from the different relationships that we have in our own family -- dealing with our children, dealing with our spouse, dealing with our siblings, and so on.
32) In Jin Nim's mother was reminding her that the important and simple building block is the family -- no matter how complicated life might get, she was urging her to concentrate on building relationships within that family.
33) When In Jin Nim's mother used the word simple elegance, or the word elegance -- what her mother meant by that -- when In Jin Nim took calculus in college her professor told her that the goal of all great mathematicians is to find the elegant solution to a problem. Mathematical solutions cover three or four blackboards, but what all great mathematicians want to do is to arrive at an elegant solution, an elegant answer that encapsulates everything that the three or four blackboards want to say, but said in something that is profound -- as a simple formula.
34) And so, when In Jin Nim's mother spoke of elegant living, what she was saying was, take all the complexities and formulate a working solution that works simply and elegantly.
35) And so in In Jin Nim's daily life as a mother of five children -- she has had a research laboratory to test out her mother's theories and her desire for her to be a woman of simple elegance. And while she continues, even to this day, to probe her for a simple elegant life -- In Jin Nim's mother will tickle her on the side of her ribs and ask her, "do you remember the three things your mother told you about, from time to time? Did you remember to pray?" And In Jin Nim said. "Yes mother" "Did you submit to God, did you let things pass?" And then she responded, "Yes mother." "And do you remember to smile?" And she said, "yes." So whenever she sees her and asks her about how her simple elegant living is going she is always testing her about these three points.
36) For In Jin Nim's mother this is a simple and elegant formula that has proven the test of time and has worked for her throughout her life as True Mother. This is the woman who has overcome insurmountable odds, a woman who has experienced the greatest sadness and the greatest elation and jubilation -- the woman who has experienced the greatest hardships and still carries all her burdens beautifully and in a simple elegant way.
37) When her mother is asking her to pray, to surrender, and to smile -- a couple of things come to mind. Something every teenage girl or boy goes through -- when they become aware of who they are, the body starts changing -- 11, 12, 13 -- then we realize we are no longer girls, we are turning into woman and we are no longer boys, we are turning into men. There is a great deal of excitement in the air and feelings of ambivalence.
38) In Jin Nim was no different from other kids her age -- she was so eager to experience the world. Having been raised in a strict and religious upbringing -- in which she was given a list of all the things she could not do, and did not have a list along with that of the list she could do. As a child you want to test out the limits. You want to see how far you can go -- and In Jin Nim is sure that she has given her mother a lot of sleepless nights.
39) Throughout her adolescence there is one instance that comes to In Jin Nim's mind. It reminds her why prayer is so important. She was about 15 or 16 years old and all her friends wanted to go partying and dancing. There was a new hot club in New York City and her friends had a plan -- In Jin Nim was going to jump over her fence and walk down Taxter Road to in front of the deli. There, there would be a car with all her friends waiting for her to take her to NY City where they would have a blast. For In Jin Nim it took a great deal of courage to just contemplate participating in this affair. How was she going to get out of her house? She was raised in a house with security everywhere, security cameras everywhere, big 'thugs" everywhere. The front door is guarded by a pole that has to be lifted up. So, there was no way for her friends to come in and quickly pick her up.
40) In Jin Nim was thinking, "I'm going to be a woman, I need to find myself. I don't like being told what to do. I'm going to go and have a good time." All day long her heart was pounding. All day long she was wondering, "Can others see what I am planning to do, can someone sniff me out?" There was a great deal of excitement -- but she was set on going out and having a blast with her friends. When it came time, after dinner, she went up to her room and packed her clothes that she would wear in the club in her knapsack, because she could surely not wear them (in her home). She had to look like she was going somewhere appropriate. She stashed her clothes and tried to walk out of her house as if something ordinary was about to take place. She was asked where she was going with a knapsack -- "I'm just going out to take in the night air. To walk around the property. I might be inspired to take out my sketchbook and sketch some trees in the dark of night." She couldn't remember what she said exactly -- but then she had to walk down the very steep hill. She had to first greet her mother goodnight. She told her she was going out. Her mother asked "where are you going with a knapsack?" … "I'm just carrying things around." Looking back, her mother must have known, but she was very elegant, smiled and said, "oh really."
41) In Jin Nim walked down the hill, and when she was asked where she was going she told them she was just going down the hill to visit Peter Kim and his wife who lived in the guardhouse. In front of the Kim's house was the guard booth. There she had to duck into the woods, reach the fence and jump over it. She did so -- she made it over the fence and started walking towards Taxter Road. She had a feeling of grand achievement. She got out without the security catching her. Then she started to run and she found her friends waiting for her. They went to a club in NY which was run by the aunt of one of her friends. It was a great experience and she had so much fun (she hates to say it). But then when she got home, her friends dropped her off and she had to make her way back and walk all the way through the woods without being detected and make it to her room. Somehow she managed to do that.
42) When she got into her room and closed the door -- there was a sense of, "Wow, what an incredible night, I was courageous, I did it -- I was so proud of myself." But then she turned to the mantle and she saw a picture of her father and mother -- and she asked herself "Did I just try to pull one over on my mother?" A feeling of guilt came over her. She did something that her parents did not want her to do.
43) The next morning when she greeted her mother, her mother asked her, "How was your walk?" She told her, "It was a nice walk." She told her good, "Have a good day at school."
44) At school her friends pushed her to do it again. In Jin Nim was not sure if she could do it again, but they encouraged her. This time something extra special was happening at the club -- there was going to be a famous singer and they really wanted her to go. In Jin Nim thought to herself, "mmm, do I do this again? The first time I didn't get into trouble -- maybe we can do it again." In Jin Nim thought she was being so smart. The same T-shirt and jeans, same knapsack -- her mother must have been catching on. When she came back it was quite late, two or three in the morning, and when she entered her room and flicked on the light -- she saw her mom sitting on the floor, in the dark praying the entire time. And she asked her "how was your walk? It was a long walk wasn't it?"
45) In Jin Nim was so shocked, her mother there in the pitch black waiting for her, she was sure she would be spanked, that she was in big trouble. But her mother told In Jin Nim to sit and she quietly took her hand in her hand, and said, "you know In Jin Nim you don't have to prove anything. If you are confident in who you are as God's daughter you don't have to prove anything, just be yourself. You don't have to prove that you can be rebellious. Anybody can be rebellious. You may think it's a courageous thing to do, but anybody and everybody does it. So why don't you think of doing something different, something unique, something that is you instead of trying to be rebellious, which everybody does -- and therefore you are no different from the rest. If you want to be average that is fine, but if you want to be extraordinary, which I believe you were meant to be, then try to be different. Yes, you can do what everyone else is doing, but where is that going to lead you? But if you decide to have a purposeful life and work towards that end you can become [magnificent]."
46) And so she held In Jin Nim's hand (and In Jin Nim thought she was going to spank her really badly) but she said, "Let's pray. I will pray for us and then you are going to pray. You are going to pray to God and report everything that is in your heart and everything that you did. We are going to hear it together, we are going to pray together and share in the moment."
47) That was the most difficult prayer of In Jin Nim's life. She got caught, her mother knew she had done something iffy. She had been waiting up until two in the morning -- but she had not yell at her, did not throw things at her, did not spank her -- and this made it worse. If she had spanked her then In Jin Nim could have told her how much she hated her for having spanked her. But she couldn't do that. There was an incredible sense, "How the heck can I do this to my mother again?" And that was the wisdom of our True Mother. This was simple elegance in a nutshell.
48) In Jin Nim, as a mother, has been put in situations with five kids when she wants to scream (like the Home Alone boy), that is how she feels many times. You don't know what to do and you would like to take a baseball stick and call your children, "come here child I'm going to spank you now!" But, when she remembered what her mother did with her simple elegance in a calm collected manner, maintaining her femininity -- and when she maintains her femininity it is really scary -- and in a calm composed voice, asked her, invited her, to pray to God and report everything that she did -- that was incredibly more powerful than 21 hits on her buttocks.
49) In Jin Nim learned from her mother that life puts you in crazy situations and sometimes we are the child, but when we grow up we are the parents -- and life puts you in all different scenarios and environments, but the great thing about keeping her mother in her head, with the importance of prayer, the importance of surrendering to God, and the importance of smiling -- that was the lesson she taught her that day. After her mother had prayed -- sharing how much she loved her, how she is an extraordinary person in the making, how she was born as a divine person, how she was meant to be a great woman of God -- her mother put all these possibilities before In Jin Nim in her prayer and she said to God, please help this child, not to just be average, but to let her know that she was born to be extraordinary. That really got to In Jin Nim. And then her mother asked her to surrender to God -- tell everything to God (and he saw everything anyway) but this was In Jin Nim's chance to articulate everything to God and in a way come clean, respecting God as her parent.
50) For In Jin Nim this reporting, or surrendering to God, was an incredibly cathartic experience for her. Because her mother did not hit or physically abused her, but at the same time made her think through it, made her articulate through what she did -- and why she should not perhaps do this again, because she has a goal, a purpose in life. It's good to rebel, and it could be fun, but she was encouraging her that her life was meant to be something greater than just having fun night after night at some nightclub in New York City.
51) It was a really powerful moment, a powerful experience, and she could not stop crying. Afterwards her mother said, "Come here." And she held In Jin Nim in the tightest and warmest embrace that she had had in a long time. And she said, "Now we are going to (?), you have come back safely, and with gratitude, all the wonderful things that mommy and daughter will experience together. This is, in a way, a symbol of being so grateful that God has placed you in my life and that you have been given to me as my daughter."
52) That was one of the beautiful moments that In Jin Nim remembers from time to time. Her mother is an incredibly powerful woman. She is so powerful without saying a word. The power and gravitas comes from within. You will never see In Jin Nim's mother pray hysterically, with tears and snot flying everywhere. In Jin Nim grew up on the second floor of the Chang Padang Church and went to sleep in unison prayer and woke up to unison prayer. Those Korean woman, they are hot tamales. They seem subservient and innocuous, but put the power of faith in them and they will scream out, "Heavenly Father, hallelujah!, The Lord is here! We have to change the world!" They almost become masculine in their prayers. When In Jin Nim was little their prayers used to freak her out. Members were chanting and screaming hysterically -- as a child she could not understand why people would behave like that. And then she would wake up in the morning to the same thing and she would think, "Thank God for school. I don't have to deal with this until I come back."
53) But In Jin Nim's mother never prayed like that. She was always so secure and confident in her own skin. Even when people belittled her for being a woman. In the culture of masculinity and male dominance -- many people in the Korean society did not understand how important our True Mother was. They understood the importance of our True Father, but when she started out her married life no one really knew what to do with her. Many times she was castigated and relegated as second-class. It is kudos to her that throughout the years, in our movement that woman have been given this opportunity to reclaim their dignity and the sense of themselves as divine human beings. Without our True Mother, In Jin Nim would not be standing here.
54) Regardless of how much difficulty this woman went through In Jin Nim never saw her lose it. She never saw her screaming at God. One time she asked her, why she did not pray like that. She said to her, "You are before God. If God were seated before you, is that the way you would talk to him in conversation. You are talking to God. Would you talk to God screaming at the top of your voice? God hears you."
55) Many times In Jin Nim saw her mother praying silently and at that moment she experienced how profound it is that here is a woman so confident in herself and so situated -- knowing who she is, understanding that she is before God, having a conversation -- being able to report to God as a daughter would report to her father, and maintaining this respect for relationship -- revealing her heart. And in that silence she spoke more powerfully to In Jin Nim than any group of woman screaming at the top of their lungs in hysterics.
56) That is when In Jin Nim realized, when she began to record her own music, the importance of silence in music. Sometimes the silence is more profound than the actual playing of notes. Every time she experiences this she is reminded of her mother.
57) On this beautiful Mother's Day In Jin Nim wants to encourage all woman and all daughters of God to really pursue this life of elegant living. And just as every mathematician tries to take their 3, 4, or 5 blackboards worth of mathematical formulas down to an elegant formula -- In Jin Nim believes that through the course of her mother's life she has given us a formula that works, a simple elegant formula. And that is -- to pray, and to know when to surrender to God. In a way, mothers sometimes have a problem of not being able to let go of their children, not realizing that we become their worst impediment to become a successful human being. We have to work together with God, just as we try our best, we have to be willing to surrender at times to God, and say, "God, this time, this moment is in your hands. I will unite 100% in your hands, I will let it pass..(?)" and always to begin each day with a smile knowing that we live a life of gratitude -- that we have been given this opportunity to really serve God. Not just in our heads or in our understanding, but with our lives.
58) And that is what Lovin' Life is all about. It's about celebrating God. It's about celebrating the breaking news of our True Parents. It's about celebrating the opportunity we have before us in being allowed to manifest our own ideal families onto the world.
59) And it is really about celebrating each other, and that together, if all of us live and practice this philosophy of living for the sake of others, "I live for you, you live for me, all of us working together." Then the world that we are waiting for, the world of peace and harmony, it is not just some fluffy marshmallow spread on bread, it can actually be made into a reality. Just as a great bite into a succulent peanut butter sandwich, that delight of biting into a succulent peanut butter sandwich -- is lost if you don't have the jelly. Or biting into a succulent eggs Benedict in the morning and realizing that the ham is missing. We have before us a man and a woman. So not only do you have the poached eggs you also get the ham, and not only do you have peanut butter -- you do have the jelly. So we have a total package in our True Parents. And it is our True Mother that is the secret ingredient that makes True Father great as the True Parents of mankind.
60) "Brothers and sisters, honor our Heavenly Parents, our Heavenly Father and Mother up in heaven, honor our True Parents. And all of us should honor our parents. And all the husbands, you know who you are, should honor your wife. Because without her, it doesn't matter how great you are, it doesn't matter how smart or how sexy or how capable you are -- you are not going to have a family without your beautiful wife. So this is a day when we can honor and celebrate the feminine. This is a day when we can truly feel the importance of what Mother's Day is all about -- because through our True Mother we can reclaim the dignity of a woman. And through our True Mother the position of mother can be understood as something divine."
61) "Brothers and sisters we are the luckiest people in the history of the Providence, to have our True Parents with us. So please have a glorious Mother's Day and thank you!"