Dae Mo Nim's Guidance For Pregnant Sisters

Jae Soon Choi
September 13, 2010

This is the lecture notes taken by Amy Iamsam-ang during the 40 Days Workshop (5 Sep -- 13 Sept 2010) in Chung Pyung.

How To Give Birth To Healthy Baby

We have to give birth to healthy babies. Pregnant women are happiest people in Chung Pyung. You have overcome the problem of not being able to get pregnant. There are several reasons why one could not get pregnant.

On the man side, firstly it is due to evil spirits holding the sperm tube. Evil spirits squash the sperm to kill them. This is the reason why we need to liberate the evil spirits in our body. Another factor is due to environmental reason whereby the sperms are too weak due to one's body condition and does not eat and sleep well.

On the women side, first and foremost is due to resentful spirits in the womb, the evil spirits squash the sperms whenever they enter the womb. I can hear the sound of squashing like little children squashing plastic bubble wrappers. Other factors are due to lack of exercise, excessive fats in the womb and cold womb. For women who have cold womb, they can be recovered by sitting in a bath tub with the water temperature of 42 degrees C filled above the belly button level. Those who have too much fat in the womb should massage the belly often so that the sperms could enter without obstacles.

Before getting pregnant, attend the 40 Days workshop in Chung Pyung. Men's sperm are being made 3 months before and after that they are hibernating and being release during sexual intercourse. Thus, in order to have a healthy baby, 3 months before conception and the man should live a good life spiritually and physically. As for women, there are about 2 million eggs hibernating in the body and they are being release each month during menstruation after puberty. Health lifestyle is very important before pregnancy.

True Parents gave birth to True Children after certain providential victory. Each of the children were conceived and born after True Parents' sincere devotion for special providential victory. Thus, it is important to offer sincere devotion before conception so that the sperm and egg which resemble True Parents and good ancestors can be met up by the help of the absolute good spirits.

Dae Mo Nim sees the day of conception as the date of birth of the baby and not the date the baby is born. The date of conception is the most important date that determines our destiny. The moment when the sperm and egg meet, one's destiny is decided. Therefore it is not advisable that a couple has relationship after heavy drinking or attending a funeral service.

It is good for the pregnant mothers to come to Chung Pyung during their 5th-6th month of pregnancy. If they come too early, there will be a risk of miscarriage because of the busy schedule. If they come too late, it will be difficult to fix if the baby has any problem. 5th-6th month is the times when the brain cells are being produced. It is a critical time period for the fetus. Scientifically, the more and better quality of the brain cell, the better it is for the baby.

There was a case where a pregnant mother who came to Chung Pyung in her 8th months. She discovered her baby has a cleft lip through the ultrasound. The mother stayed in Chung Pyung for 40 days and continued until the baby was born. The baby was treated by the medical angels in the womb and after her birth it was found that her lip was fine except a small trace of scar. Had she come to Chung Pyung earlier, the scar would not even exist.

Another case was a baby who has no lips at all. The mother came at her 5th-6th month. She attended 40 days twice. After her second 40th day, ultrasound shows that the baby lips were intact. She stayed and gave birth at the Cheongshim hospital and the doctor was so happy to see that the baby has lips. She also discovered that there is scar at the backside of the lips as if an operation has been carried out. The medical angels work hard and did the operation inside the womb! Now the baby is already 4-5 years old.

The destiny of your baby is decided in the womb. If you are happy parents, you will have happy baby. The life of faith and characteristics of the baby will be similar to the mother. Let all the problems be solved within the womb, problems would be difficult to repair when the baby is born. 10 months in the womb is equivalent to 10 years. Even though the baby is in the womb, he/she is being influenced by the outside world. Even if the baby's eyes are closed, she can feel everything. She is preparing to see the world outside. The fetus has her like and dislike too. She may desires to eat something through the mother. She may like some smells and music. She will feel sad when her parents quarrel with each other or mother overly disposes her body in the public. Therefore, please have a happy mind during your pregnancy.

Children's Education

How to educate our children? By telling them good story and reading good books? No. children learn the lifestyle of their parents. Exemplary lifestyle is the best education for the children. Children see how you live every day. Education starts from breast feeding. When the child's hand touches her mother's breast, she will feel close to the mother heart to heart. The moment when the baby is sucking mother's milk, it is the most peaceful and happy moment for the child. When a girl reaches their puberty age, they will remember the moment when she is in mother's breast.

Mother should be opened to the children; it is okay to let them see the mother naked. Otherwise, their curiosity will draw them to watch pornography. In this way, the child will be opened and tell mother everything. Mother should see the children sleep first and then go to their husband. Let them share with you everything that happens in the day like their friends.

Parents should show a lifestyle of tradition i.e. Kyung-bae daily to True Parents, Hoon Dok Hae, observing An Shi Il day and Holy Days. They should start learning tradition when they start drinking milk and crawling. If you want to raise good second generation, you must start at a very young age.

Teach them True Parents' culture, attend True Parents' picture. Let the children see you attending True Parents from youth. Some parents are conservative, they do not explain their children the real identity as 2nd generation. Some of them do not know until they came to realize that they are 2nd generations when they are 20 years old. This is not good.

It is good to have many children rather than just one. Otherwise he/she does not know how to care and share with others. They will lack the chance to learn about basic human relationship with people and how to cooperate with one another.

In the Lee Dynasty, the king specifically gave instruction to the teacher to teach and raise up his son strictly. As a future king, the crown prince needed to have strong physical body, skillful in fighting, writing and acquired much knowledge. It is the same with our 2nd generation; we must be strict to them and raise them well so that they are capable to compete with secular children. They must live well and win over others, get good position and be able to influence people in the society.

Mother should always love, accept children's mistakes and forgive, Sometimes she should be like a sister and sometimes as a friend to her children. Children grow up eating mother's love. Some children were sent to Chung Pyung by their parents because they refuse to go to school or fight in the school. Experts say that children's problem are usually parents' problem. Because of the violence in the family, they demonstrate violence in the school. This is not spiritual problems but the problem of the parents' lifestyle and education.

Parents should raise up their children carefully. Discipline is good but sometimes hitting children can make them feel resentful towards the parents. Parents need to lead them by showing good examples. They need to change their lifestyle. Husband and wife should grow in their relationship by giving and receiving love. Their children should not just grow up by taking physical food giving but by receiving love with their parents. Children grow up by eating parents' love. If parents do not express love in a proper ways, children will get hurt. Parents must always hug, kiss and touch their children. When the children have problem, parents must treat their problem with love and holding their hands.

The wife must work hard, wake up early before the husband, make up, make yourself look nice and then start doing chores. You must look beautiful always and greet the husband before he goes to work. It is the wife's duty to make the husband feel love and want to come home and hold her in his arm.

When children go to school, let them feel the parents love with hugs and kisses so that they want to come home quickly. If parents are not home when children comes back, they will feel lonely. If the wife is not there when husband comes home, he will feel lonely.

Always keep your home clean, neat and orderly. Keep all toys in toy box and do not let your house be messy. Messy home reflects messy mental attitude. A neat and orderly home will make the children's mind orderly. It is like data/record keeping in computer. Our living environment will affect the children's mind.

Woman should love her husband and children and speak to them with soft words, express beautiful and soft gesture. Dae Mo Nim said the ideal woman in her mind is a mother who has a soft heart, soft skin, uses soft words and act softly.

Husband is the subject and wife is the object. A strong woman will only ruin the family. If you are too strong, then you must change, otherwise husband will have no strength and children will be weak. Heavenly Father created man and woman as subject and object. If you can live in this way, husband and wife can be happy and husband will enjoy being with you, holding, loving and playing with you. If husband and wife always live in love, holding hands, respecting each other in front of their children, the children will grow up respecting and resembling their parents.

In 2004, True Father presented a beautiful calligraphy to True Mother describing her as a Mother who is loved by Heaven and Mother who is respected by the Earth.

Wife must respect her husband and know how to receive love from him. Even if husband buys you a small gift, wife must know how to appreciate. He will prepare to buy you a better gift next time. Do not complain if the gift is too small or too expensive. If husband buys you something which you don't need, you must learn to appreciate and express your joy and happiness. Do react positively to his love. He will be stimulated to do more for you. Never compare your husband to another person. If you do this, you will ruin the relationship.

Wife should not complain about her husband in front of the children. Husband and wife must always use respectful words to each other. Children who are raised in love and respect will be able to show love and respect to others. Otherwise, when children reach high school, they will not listen to mother anymore. If the mother respects the father, father can help to discipline the children. Because of the authority and strength of the father, children will listen. Therefore, please respect your husband's position. If husband and wife ignore each other, eventually, children will ignore the parents. If the wife ignores the husband, there is no way for him to be successful in life.

Wife should always attend the husband and children well. Treat your husband like king and treat your children well. Praise them always and they will be good husband and children. Show to your children good example of attendance, filial piety and loyalty. Never let out on the children whenever there is a conjugal struggle. Husband and wife must keep absolute, unchanging and eternal love for each other. Show this example to your children. This is the only way to protect absolute purity in your children. Children are sensitive, they can feel it immediate if their parents have conjugal struggle.

If parents have bad relationship, children will imitate their parents' lifestyle and repeat that in their family relationship in the future. If the wife ignores her husband, children have the tendency to ignore their future spouse.

Don't let Heavenly Father take care of your children on your behalf. No one can do the role of a wife. Heavenly Father wants to love your children and husband through you. Two years ago, a Korean mother who is a 6500 Blessed Couple brought her daughter to Chung Pyung. She forced her daughter to come because she had a boy friend. After bringing her to Chung Pyung, she left for her mission. I talked to her daughter; she had lots of resentment towards her mother. She said, "I don't need my mum. She got into the first train everyday to do her mission work and come back by the last train. She is never at home when I needed her." She did not want to see her mother's face. This is not good. Only you can love your children and no one else can do it for you. A mother's role and a wife role can only be accomplished by you.

Hoon Moon Nim always says beautiful words to her husband. Please become the wife that your husband wants to be with all the time. If husband is away for a long time, you should give him all the love you have when you meet again. You must have this kind of longing heart and determine to create happiness in your family.